be reconciled to God. God’s desire is not to punish us but to woo us to himself. He longs to lavish his loving grace on us—flaws and all (see Gal. 2:20). God is not silent on the issue of violence. Passages such as Psalm 11 describe his hatred of violent people. People are made in God’s image, and being brutal to them desecrates that image (see Gen. 9:6)—and so God does not hide his disdain for violence. Being married does not mean that a wife needs to stay with a violent husband.